We all have our favorite memories. The good ones. They usually bring a smile and concern someone, some place or some time special to us. In fact, we sometimes treat them like a favorite toy; taking them out and playing with them, rolling them around in our mind so we can feel the warmth they bring back to our being.
But what do you do with the bad memories? We all have them also, but instead of making us feel warm, they have sharp and jagged edges that can bother us as much now as when they happened.
It might be something that someone did to us, or something we did that we would like to take back, but the memory is just as strong as a good memory, and stays right there, teetering on the edge of our consciousness, ready to spring on us at a moment’s notice. And when they do spring on us, they tend to deflate any good mood we might be in.
Actually, sometimes we intentionally yank one open. Maybe it’s to review it against some new information we’ve discovered, or we simply can’t believe something like that happened to us. Whatever the reason though, rarely does a bad memory become anything other than a bad memory. It will haunt us until we die, and at times will even seem like it will be around long after that.
Can you still face the person, place or thing that created the bad memories? Some people try. They want to slay those dragons and believe the only way they can is to deal with them directly.
Maybe that’s true, but I’m not so sure I can do it. I deal with them by trying to forget them, or I dwell on the good ones, hoping they will eventually smother the bad ones.
No wonder we get wrinkles and grey hair as we age.
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